Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
This is truly sad. And breaking the news to the kids... well... it would be no small task.
So me and my wife considered all the different ways to bring the reality of life and death to light with the children, in some non-Oh-My-Gosh-My-Parents-Are-Totally-Going-To-Pay-For-This-Later-When-I'm-In-Therapy sort of way...
Wife: Whats wrong?
Me: Uh, just got a text from the person living at our house right now.
Wife: What broke?
Me: The cat.
Wife: The cat broke?
Me: Well, the cat got hit by a car.
Wife: Oh no. We gotta tell the kids!
Me: Okay... tomorrow?
Brother: Oh! Tell 'em the cat moved to Calgary!
Wife: That is a stupid idea.
Brother: No, that's totally what our parents told us when our cat died!
Wife: That is really, the stupidest idea ever.
Me: Oh, but they threw the budgies in the fire! And let us watch. In fact, I think WE got to throw them in there.
Wife: No, wait. THAT was the stupidest idea ever!
Son #2: Whatcha talking about?
Wife: (holding son) Nemo got hit by a car. And is dead.
Son #2: (starts crying)
Me: OR, he MIGHT have just moved to Calgary!
Wife: Okay, you GUYS just... (throws a carrot at my brother) just shut it!
Son #1: Hey, why is he crying?
Me: Nemo got hit by a car. And is dead.
Son #1: Oh, that sucks. Hey, can I have those Doritos?
Me: Uh, no.
Daughter #1: Whats going on?
Me: (since Wife was too busy consoling Son #2) Baby, Nemo got hit by a car... and... (she looks at me with those big eyes starting to fill with tears) ... and... he moved to Calgary! Got a government job out there... as... a... translator!
Daughter #1: Calgary?
Wife: Stupid! Stupid! Hold her!
Me: (holds Daughter #1) Nemo died baby. I'm so sorry.
Daughter #1: (crying)
Ping: WHY CRYING?! WHY?
Wife: Nemo got hit by a car baby, and she is dead.
Ping: WHY? NO NEMO DEAD. CASPAIAN (our other cat) DEAD.
Wife: No, Caspain is fine. Nemo is dead.
When ever anything BAD happens, and your CHILD(s) ask WHY, this is a PRIME opportunity to push an agenda! Which agenda is totally up to you... but do NOT let this opportunity pass without sneaking in SOMETHING you are trying to teach them.
Me: Nemo died, because she did not listen to his Mommy and Daddy.
Wife: Nemo died because she did not look BOTH ways before crossing the street!
Me: She ALSO died because she did not hold his Mommy's or Daddy's hand when she was told to!
Wife: She died because she did NOT talk nice!
Me: Because she did not eat her food!
Wife: She did not brush her teeth!
Me: She ... uh... wore socks with sandals!
Ping: Oh. She no see car and car went (acts out with her hands a cat getting squashed by a car).
Daughter #1: Whaaa?! (WAILING)
Me: Yes, Ping. Thats right. Nemo got hit by a car.
Ping: NO NO! SHE GO like THIS (again, with the hand motions and THIS time, with added "squishing" sounds)
Daughter #1 + Son #2: (wailing increases, huge sobbing)
Son #1: What about THESE Doritios then?
Me: Yes, thats right Ping. Nemo got hit by a car. Now, thats enough.
Ping: NO! NEMO! CAR! LIKE THIS! (Again with the hand actions and sounds + maniacal laughing) Muwhahaha! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAAA!
Wife: Is she "evil laughing".
Me: Yes. I think so.
Ping: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! LIKE THIS!!!! (she can barely breath she is laughing so hard)
It pretty much went down hill from there. I'm not even going to get into the "Frog Incident"... maybe another time.
But it is curious to see the different children's reaction to the news. With 3 of the 4, we could pretty accurately call how they would react. With Ping, well... sometimes, we're still trying to figure her out. Now, she IS very tender (at times). And she IS able to show compassion and patience... but there are some things, which she just finds funny... which she shouldn't.
Like, getting in trouble. There have been a couple times where we've gone to discipline her, and she is stifling a laugh. And a BIG laugh. Where I'm there busy in the middle of the "Good Cop/Bad Cop" routine, and she is holding both hands over her mouth trying not to laugh...
Anyway, I think its a nervous laugh, and she is trying to deal with the vulnerability she is feeling. She dose not like being vulnerable. So I think anything where she feels hurt, or gets in trouble, her "defense" mechanism kicks in... and... she... laughs. So odd.
I am thoroughly enjoying getting to know this little precious daughter of mine.
But for now, I have to go again... I can hear her doing the "Nemo/Car" routine again, and Daughter #1 is crying...
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Friday, July 2, 2010
- 2 Grandmas
- 2 Grandpas
- 3 Aunties
- 2 Uncles
- 1 Male Cousin
- 6 Female Cousins
- 3 Of the Wifes Friends and their many off springs
- 1 Aunt from Europe
- The Norris Family
- Half Brothers/Sisters (the Half is only a title, its all family)
- ... and thats just the IMMEDIATE family.
- Our eldest son was born and raised in Winnipeg, and was used to the family pretty quick.
- Our 2nd child, was 6 months old when we left Winnipeg. It took him a little while to get used to the family.
- Our 3rd child, well, it took her years to get used to the family (we only get to see them maybe once a year)
- And our 4th child, is already doing so great, and I am so proud of her! :-) She is talking, and playing, and swimming, and not being distant.
- Our 5th child? ... well... lets just keep waiting on that one...
Adrian & Roberta;
Thanks for the 6-month follow-up report. We will appreciate that you
send us 2 or 3 pictures for Jade, so we can make this report complete
as required by CCAA.
Ahhh, gotta get some pictures off to China!
Here we go...
You have been sent 20 pictures.
DOH!!! Well, I filtered out the other 9228 photos and got it down to
20... now... we just gotta narrow it down to 2 or 3.
Which photos to send... which... photos...