So I met a little boy at the grocery store this week whose name is Luka. And that got me thinking about your Lukai. And then I wondered. Why did Ping retain her Chinese name, but Lukai will not? Just curious.
(adopting from Eastern Europe)
Hey, good question. I should answer this on the blog later - because we actually get asked this fairly often. :-)
Ping dose have a "Canadian" name, it is Jade. Her legal name is something like Jade Roberta DongPing Berzenji - where we kept the DongPing from her original Chinese name Zhong DongPing.
However, she was 4 1/2 when we adopted her. And she had language. And friends. And over 4 years of being called PingPing. So, when we called her "Jade" she was very *VERY* clear, "I'm NO Jade! I DongPing!" So we let it go. The kid had lost so much already, why take away her name if she wanted to keep it.
Now, we do call her JadePing often, sometimes Jade, and she is warming up to being called names other than Ping (but on the blog, I still refer to her solely as Ping). She still prefers Ping to other names... and that is OK. I know some other families don't agree with me on this point, they change their child's name on day 1. In fact, I think there are some parents who have never ever called their children by their Chinese names.
Anyway, onto Wu YanBing (aka: Lukai). He is quite a bit younger, so maybe he won't care about his name as much. But, he knows his current name... so we will take the same approach. He has a Canadian name, it is Lukai. If he strongly objects to this name... well, then, he might stick with Bing. Either way, his legal name will be Lukai Adrian YanBing Berzenji - again, keeping his Chinese given name in there like we did with Ping.
I guess for us, it is that we wanted them to have an easier to pronounce English Name if they wanted to use it, but keep their Chinese names since they already know it. I remember in one of the classes we had to take about Adoption - they Social Workers were pointing out how these children who get adopted loose "everything" - country, food, language, and even their name. "So why not let them keep their name" I though. Both Ping and Bing are easy to pronounce in english... its not like they have a name like Qi which can not be pronounced by any sane english speaker. :-)
If we were adopting a 6month old baby, then new name no problem... I don't know how much a 6 month old associates with their names. They would know parental voices more than their names. But I'm getting off topic... probably because I'm trying to avoid work. :-)
Did I actually answer your question in there?