Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Remember the Good Ol' Days?

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On Wed, Tuesday, March 16, 2010 7:40 AM, Alain wrote:
Have it (Bad Company 2) on 360. Pretty good game!

On Wed, Tuesday, March 16, 2010 3:40 PM, Alban wrote:
You have all the games, I swear..
How do you find time to play them?
(I got AC2 2 weeks ago, I haven't even removed the plastic film on it!)
But, I upgraded my PS3 to 320Go, fairly straight forward (as long as you know you have to hit Select+Start for 5 seconds to format the new HD! Stupid Sony, It should be automatic!)

On Tue, Mar 16, 2010 at 3:47 PM, Alain wrote:
Ha! Nice.
Two words: No kids.
I'm usually too busy, but I've had some time off lately for a reoccuring injury to my foot, so I've been able to finish quite a few lol
On Wed, Mar 17, 2010 at 10:18 AM, Adrian wrote:
Yea... no kids... *siiiigh* Remember those days well... cherish them... for they all leave to quickly.

On Wed, Mar 17, 2010 at 10:19 AM, Mike wrote:
There was a time before kids?? Wow. I have total memory loss... lol

On Wed, Mar 17, 2010 at 10:23 AM, Adrian wrote:
Suppression... not loss.

If we membered it, we would be filled with bitter rage that our lives are no longer our own.
If we forgot it, we would not know from whence we came, and would have no "life lessons" to pass onto our children.
Therefore, we must have "suppressed" our previous life; thereby preserving it in our memories for when our beloved little children struggle with our previous struggles, but do not have to re-live daily the memories which are now no longer our own.

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Ah well, what can you do. Yea, having kids changes things, but its all good. Children are worth every sleepless night, every gray hair, and every wrinkle.

And just in-case you ever forget just how wonderful your children can be, all it takes is one quiet snuggle when they curl up in your lap, lay their heads on your chest, and fall asleep.

Kids are always so cute when they sleep.

Saturday night, we were all downstairs eating pizza, watching our movie for Family Movie night. And for what ever reason... I'm not sure, maybe lack of judgement, maybe the Pepsi went to her head... Ping decided to crawl up on MY lap, snuggle in, and settle down for the night.

She sat on my lap, and laid against me for the whole movie, and by the end of the movie, was asleep in my arms.

Man, what a beautiful thing. Not a common thing though... cuddle up with Mom? Sure. Daddy? Not so much.

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Maybe there is some "under current" of competition between parents... okay, who am I kidding, there is A LOT of competition between parents ("My little Jimmy was walking at 10 months!", "Well MINE was walking at 10 months!", "Oh yea? My child walked OUT of my womb all by herself!") ... and thankfully, in a testament to how natural Adoption is, there is A LOT of competition between adoptive parents. :-)

As I blog, how is Ping doing compared to other children? How am I doing as a father?

I know some blogs about parenting talk about how wonderful and (blah blah blah) it is. All the good stuff. And thats important. Those are the moments that help keep us parents sane.

I just want to make sure that this blog here, is a place for honesty in parenting, and hopefully a place people feel safe to comment on and contribute to the "though process" of parenting.

Because Lord knows, I'm not perfect. There are still things we are working on, some 3 or 4 months into this process... so why not be honest about it all.

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So are my "good 'ol days" gone? Yea; the ones I remember... or at least, haven't suppressed.
But, I don't think I miss 'em.

Because these days right now, as rocky, tiring and trying as they are (and trust me, they are), are definitely the "BEST 'old Days".

PS: Ping seems to have stopped yelling at me in both languages now, and really seems to be enjoying my company. It's about time. :-) Now she will drag me around the house, and make me sit with her while she plays. I still can't play WITH her, or touch her sometimes, but at least she is feeling safe enough to sleep in my arms, and take me with her where ever she goes.

1 comment:

  1. Adrian, from what I get from reading you.... errr...let me clarify that...from reading your writings....and especially from what I got from a short face-to-face chat with you...Ping (and or course all of your children) are sooooo lucky to have such an awesome Dad. If Ping doesn't seem to completely know it now (even though I think that deep down she does), she will for sure in time. The emotion that rockets from you when you talk about children is......well....inspiring. And you play a pretty freakin' mean guitar and piano!!!!!!